**note: this is a complete take from Wedded Bliss... but I wanted to see what my readers thought.
Your marriage may be forever but is your wedding ring?
When Ryan and I got engaged, on my 21st birthday (yes, we were young!!), we had previously went ring shopping together. At this point, we had just purchased our first home together and I was still a full time college student. I also was not a huge jewelry (ring) wearer, so when picking out my engagement ring I was quite frugal.
I knew I wanted a solitaire, something simple and timeless, but everything seemed so... large and sticking up off my hand. I wasn't used to wearing rings. I decided on a 1/3 carat ring and a wedding band/wrap to go with it. In all, I have a row of 5 diamonds (my solitaire and two on each side) and a diamond wedding band beside it. I think in all my ring is just under a carat.
I was recently told that "my husband should have done better".... well, they were shocked when they heard *I* picked out my ring and I didn't WANT anything larger.
I've never been a huge jewelry/diamond girl. Diamonds aren't this girls best friend, to tell you the truth. I could take or leave expensive jewelry (I'd prefer cheap, yet stylish/trendy jewelry instead... my tastes change too often and I get bored with the same old..)
ANYHOW..... back to my TFT. Upon getting engaged, Ryan and I discussed/agreed that we were ok with upgrading my solitaire for something larger in the future, possibly my first Mother's Day. As our marriage and careers blossomed, and our paycheck could support it, we'd trade in the small 1/3 carat and get something larger. Obviously, my first Mother's Day has come and gone. We had revisited the idea and at that point in our lives I really didn't care what my ring looked like. Did I like the look of the newer, larger styles now? Of course. Did I want to go drop a ton of money on a new diamond just for looks? Not really. The thought crosses my mind sometimes as I notice others' rings that I adore. I wonder if I'll ever feel the "need" or "want" to get a larger ring.... whether it be the entire thing or just the diamond. Will I "want" a new ring style? Would it be "right" to trade in my sacred wedding ring? Or, is it just "a ring"... just "a diamond"?
What are your thoughts? Is it okay to upgrade your wedding ring/diamond?