No no no... not me. But my word it seems like everyone and their brother are getting divorced!! Ok, so really not many people I know personally, but there are SO many bloggers that I'm just shocked over. It makes me so sad. And while I know I don't know them personally, I don't know their marriages firsthand (or even secondhand or well, at ALL) but just to grow to love these women- to relate to them and to feel like they would/could be your friend- and then to hear they're going through this tragic situation. I sometimes feel like nothing is safe... no one's marriage is safe from the big D. People who I feel like had a great marriage, or who overcame so many obstacles to get to this harmonious (or so it seems) point in life only for it all to unravel.
A few months ago I visited some big name bloggers that I used to worship...err... follow. Ali Edwards. Heather Armstrong. Leta from The Cheeky Lotus and Jen Weintribe, a fabulous photographer whom I followed through her adoption story 4 years ago. And my jaw dropped and heart skipped a beat to read that they were either separated or divorced. And then just today I found two more well loved bloggers.... Glennon and Melissa (SuburbanBliss)... were either newly separated or divorced. So so so so sad to me!! It pains me to think about the shattered fairytale that they're living right now. I can't imagine. It just makes me want to scream "IS NO ONE SAFE FROM DIVORCE??"
I can't sit back and judge and I won't, because I don't know the details. The specifics. I don't know their hearts and their minds and I don't know their relationships. But I think to myself, I can't imagine getting to the point where I hated, despised, didn't love, Ryan to the point of wanting out... to the point of not wanting to fix things. I just can't envision it. And while I do agree there are situations that warrant a divorce, point blank, (abuse- physical or emotional, unwillingness of the other spouse to fix things etc) I just feel like (or it seems to me) that the white flag is waved prematurely without a fight. (Like I said... I'm not saying this is true because I have NO idea inside these lives, but from the outside it just makes me feel like it happens all so easily. I know it doesn't. I know things build up to that breaking point in most cases.)
My heart hurts for these women that I've felt a connection with (though they have no idea who I am HA!). I wish and hope and pray they resolve things and come back together with their spouses. Although I suppose in some cases they're better off apart and should that be the case I pray they find their happy ever after.