For those days. For those holidays. You know the ones.
Repeat after me:
- I shall not wait for my house or my life to be perfect before inviting someone in.
- I shall remember that big hospitality has nothing to do with the size of my house.
- I shall not judge my house, my Holidays or my gift wrapping skills by Pinterest’s standards.
- I shall tell myself that no one ever did actually die of embarrassment from a small or messy space. And that missing out on community is a much worse kind of dying.
- I shall not compare myself to others’ traditions, decor or gifts, but find my identity in the God who came to *be* the gift to me.
- I shall play music loudly and teach my kids the joy of wildly off key carols.
- I shall accept that a messy house at peace is better than an immaculate house tied up in knots.
- I shall remember that guests will only feel as comfortable in my home as I feel in my own skin.
- I shall embrace the fact that in becoming a mom I traded perfect for a house full of real.
- I shall remember that there’s no shame in paper plates if they’re heaped high with delight in each others’ company.
- I shall give my friends the gift of comparison-free friendship.
- I shall pause between preparations to savor the celebrations.
- I shall remember that hospitality is about opening the door, not about how fancy the furniture, decor or dishes.
- I shall treat my family with the same grace I offer my guests.
- I shall treat myself with the same grace I offer everyone else.
- I shall leave the dishes and lean into the conversations.
- I shall not focus on fear of appearances but on fully opening my arms to my friends and family.
- I shall not be intimidated by how the holidays, the turkey, the tree or the memories “should” be celebrated but love the people I’m celebrating with instead.
- I shall welcome my kids into the decorations, preparations, and celebrations.
- I shall remember that I want you here. Whether I’m perfectly ready or not. Just the way you are. Which will likely mean most days, I must open the door just the way I am too.
~ with love from one tired, happy mother to another.